This blog is created to honour the end of my Nationals Inter-School Canoe Championship 2009 and the end of a Canoeist Career in Junior College. The 1st few post will be dedicated towards the setting up of this blog and will convey my thoughts and feeling over the 4 days event to honour the Sports which I really believe in, fought for, bleed for and gave my life to.

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1. Like a Boss
2. A Side of Me That I hate
3. It's difficult to be noble
4. Self Control
5. To be the ideal me
6. In the end, I walk this world alone.
7. Serendity
8. Be stronger than your old imagination.
9. What's my identity
10. Flame that lights the moment, but burns for the li...

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The number one reason people quit their job? "It all boils down to disrespect, towards them or their work," says HR manager/consultant Jennifer Joson-Virginio, who has stood guard at the employees' revolving door of publishing and IT companies for nearly a decade now.
It's unfortunate to have talent go to waste, only to see them excel elsewhere under better management. Want to know how to inspire loyalty, bring out the best, and maintain a good working relationship with your staff? Ms. Virginio gives us the top tips on being a great boss.
Walk the talk
Be the kind of boss that people aim to please and emulate, by leading by example, and exhibiting exactly the kind of behavior you expect from your own staff. "The best real-life boss I've ever come across with was the country head of one of the IT companies I joined. He walked his talk. His secret, I believe, is simply put in his own words … 'I don't shortchange my people.'  To me those words are brilliant, genuine, and true," says Virginio.
"You can't—and should not aim to—please everyone, but you make them know that you think things through. By this principle, your demeanor and decisions are guided by truth, fairness, and respect. With these, people tend to just gravitate towards you …  and as a bonus, do your 'bidding,' whether it be a request or a mandate."
Be fair but firm
Cultivate an open, honest, and fair environment where people can operate in mutual respect instead of fear. An employee's resentment can stem from not being heard out, being wrongly accused, or being punished much too harshly. It's important to lay down the law clearly, and when rules are broken, to judge the situation before meting out the appropriate, logical penalty.
Don't be a monster boss and fly into a rage at the slightest provocation; likewise, don't be a pushover and shirk from keeping your staff in line for fear that they'll no longer find you cool. Establish respect by being firm, fair, and yes, true to your word.

Keep the peace
Being a boss also means managing different personalities, and there are times you need to step in as a referee to keep the working environment harmonious and productive. When it comes to handling conflict between subordinates, Virginio suggests, "Always seek to resolve, and you can only do this when you are calm. Be fair and be patient.
Some tips: Before sitting them down, make sure you know the issue. Identify a root cause, and tell them about it (know that you may not always be right though, and if so, consult others). Make a plan of action (involve them when possible) and be extra firm, then check if it is being followed through."
Leadership is not a dictatorship
If you're wondering why the new recruits never survive your iron-fisted ways, perhaps it's time to update your management tactics. Says Virginio, "Autocracy is outdated. It is not only obsolete, I consider it obscene! The younger generation wants to be led towards a vision, and they are best steered by someone who can make them focus on what they can bring to the table, and make them feel that they actually did." Which leads us to…
Motivate, not humiliate
As important as it is for your staff to believe in you, you must also believe in them. Virginio attests, "By sincerely believing in your people, and being involved in their development, you bring out the best in them. Cheesy, but true." Being able to pinpoint your team's individual talents and orchestrating them efficiently under keen yet non-overbearing supervision can bring amazing, satisfying results. Publicly censuring them when they don't attain their goals is a sure-fire way to send any self-respecting employee packing.
Command respect
It's no longer a surprise to see women at the top of the corporate ladder, though even in this modern day and age, sexist stereotypes still prevail. Blow them out of the water by commanding respect right from the get-go! Since appearances are the first things people notice, dress the part—be smartly-groomed and sophisticated, but not too fussy. Invest in good skincare and fashion for an extra boost of confidence; after all, there's nothing quite as formidable as a stunning, successful woman.
Like A Boss
Brilliance alone doesn't make you boss material. For Virginio, it all boils down to integrity and good judgment. "A good boss should have the following qualities: 1. The ability to balance respect and goodwill with business. 2. A high sense of duty and regard for continuous improvement. 3. He/she should be a visionary or someone whom people can believe in. 4. Patience and persistence.  As captain, you steer, and during a crisis, you are last to abandon ship."
Yes, that means getting down in the trenches with your staff during crunchtime—not texting your overtime commands from your seaside cabana. Virginio's professional advice to being a better boss? "First, lead because you believe you can all help to reach a common vision; then be kind, because you are sincere."

I really really hated this part of me.

I really hate it.

I really really hate it.

Why again did this kind of thing happen.

Why did it happen

How did it happen

Looking back into my life, there are many many many occasions where I could possibly screw up very badly. What my friend said was right. If only I had been some other person, I would have screw up very badly. He said I was lucky, and I believe I am.

There are many people who are willing to help me. But I can't always screw up. If I hadn't been so lucky, as to someone doing me a personal favor, once again I would be in trouble.

Thank you for all the people that have helped me. I am really going through a very difficult stage of my life. And I believe when I mature, I'm going to be and have the best traits of everyone and everything. Just wait. Hazel, let's do it. 

It's really difficult to be noble, sometimes... Truly difficult.

But I can because I'm noble

It's difficult to be gracious... truly difficult.

But I can because I'm gracious.

But I can

Because I'm the master of all difficulties.

I can

I can


I can !

Control over emotion, control over thoughts, control over willpower. Without control, human are beasts.

This episode with Cherie, clearly showed me how weak my emotional system is. It can aid me and take me to a great height, but at the same time they can also destroy me

I'm on a process to continuing refine myself, challenge myself, and to see things in the most rationale way.

I am not perfect, neither do I claim to be. I aim to be a better person each day, spiritually, psychologically, emotionally.

It has taught me many lessons, many are important one. Most importantly, it can clearly taught me that I need to change.

I need to be stronger, over my thoughts and feelings. I can do it. I am improving. I know I am

For now, you have done the right thing. You have finally had the courage to tell her what you really feel. This also means, I have already let go.

It's really hard to be a gentleman at times. But I had done it. Well done kenneth! Its time to move on.

Feel happy. Feel proud! You have done what you could to keep things in check. Let's have the seredity to accept things that we cannot change.

Let's move on. Life has much more to offer. Let's aim to be even more humorous and bring joy into people's life. That's your purpose in life isn't it. You will have a way to bring laughter to everyone. You will have a way to open up perspective in every single person. You can and will. You will always be able to find words to express yourself, and bring light into things. You can and you will.

Let's do it, Hazel.

My greatest strength is my adaptation and willingness to reflect,

My greatest weakness is the extremeness nature of my character, and I have too much feeling beyond which I am able to control.

My strength are courage, creativity and I bring life to my surroundings

My weakness is I lack focus

Putting these into place, what is the ideal self I wish to become.

Lee Kuan Yew said "The biggest gift of being young individuals is that we have enough energy to start an idea, and see it through."

Life's a Gift

Every day I wake up being a new me, a new self and that's a gift.

Every day I wake up, with great ideas and imagination and that's a gift.

Every day I wake up, looking forward to the quiet time I'm able to devote to studies, and that's a gift.

Everyday I wake up, and I see the impossible turn to the possible, the difficult becomes easy, and dreams become ideas and that's a gift.

Everyday I wake up, relationship from sour turned sweet, enemies turned friends with a heightened sense of mutual understanding than average friends, and that's a gift.

Everyday I wake up, being able to put smiles on people's faces, knowing that I have made a difference in their life's and that's a gift.

All these gifts in life makes life a gift

And life's a gift that we are able to give(gift).

- Kenneth

So then I ask God, to have the serendity to accept things that I cannot change.

Be stronger than your old imagination, Be stronger than your most destructive dreams. Be stronger than the sweetest dream that doesn't exist. And your imagination will become your servant to wonderful creation.

Hi everyone
I think you like it when you think about this other guy because you feel good when you're in your imagination world.. You like it because you're the one who created it to go and hide there whenever you want a nice moment, to escape from life and problems even when they're not that bad.. I did that all the time.. I was a professional daydreamer..
Pay attention to what I will tell you because it may help you stop in months what I tried to stop for years..
GET OUT OF THERE !!! and as fast as possible.. It's like when you take drugs, you feel good at the moment but the consequences are baad.. really bad.. You ll feel desappointed because the imagination you have doesn't take place in the real life, you start to believe your dream and it ruins you.. GET OUT !!
My advice for you is a little bet bizar: Dream ! Yes, dream, and dream a lot, but about other things, things to achieve in your life.. Keep dreaming about them and start achieving them.. while dreaming you will believe you can do it.. And well, you will do it at last.. Just focus on something you like to do and start digging: what can I make of this passion.. Be stronger than your old imagination, be strong and insist on dreaming about your career, your kids future, your couple, about some passion, even a forgotten one that you lost over years.. Be courageous and DREAM .. start by dreaming about that espacially after you realise you were thinking about thiq person, and after that whenever you think about him, force yourself to dream about yourself.. one day you will realise that you re no more thinking about him and that you started achieving amazing tings..
Dreaming is a wonderful tool and a dangerous weapon, try not to use it against yourself.. You deserve the best dreams and achievements of the world, so go for it !!!
Sorry for the bad english, and I hope it will help.. Good luck :)

Feelings...

What are feelings.

Why do human have feelings.

If I'm doing this because I have a soul...

Then soul does nothing but destroys Human.

Flame that lights the moment but burns for the life time... I never knew wisdom till tonight.

5 days before I was so horribly stress. I was so stress that I would fail in celebrating for her. I fear that she wouldn't have time for me. I fail that the guy would be around that would not go away for me to have a quiet time with her. I fear that I wouldn't be able to co-ordinate a time to carry out my plan and fail that I wouldn't be able to pull off something of this scale. I fear that I would screw up my maths paper so much that I wouldn't have the mood to celebrate for her.

And worst came when I saw her with another guy...

That my conscious was truly awakened to the reality - that I never knew how much she meant to me until she was with another guy.

And bit by bit, things became worst - I couldn't focus on my maths paper revision, and I was so upset with the reality of the moment.

That's when I went to bed every night consulting Hazel what should be done. I went to bed each night asking Hazel to formulate a solution for me that would serve in the interest in the grand scheme of things. I have deep belief in hazel. I believe hazel has all the knowledge and wisdom necessary to solve the equation. And so, Hazel presented the first question to me:

What am I so afraid about?

And then I couldn't really answer question. What was the thing I was really afraid about. Or more importantly, what am I troubled about. Am I troubled because I like her? Was I troubled because I have a crush on her? Or was I just being jealous without much reason. My feeling seemed spiraling out of control. Given my current knowledge that I have gained through reading books, the first thing I done was to enforce a discipline of mind - Relax, relax, relax, relax, relax, relax, relax, relax, relax. Control, control, control, control, control control, control, relax, relax, relax, relax, relax... I need to exercise control and relaxation. I believe I can do it and I seek the council of Hazel.

I simply can't comprehend the image of her being with another guy. My mind went in circles. I definitely believe that she hasn't forgotten her previous bf. Maybe if I have gone for her earlier, I would be the winner.

Nonetheless, my own aim has always been uninterested and uncaring towards relationship. I'm always interested in a soul partner, not a casual partner.So why are these feelings bombarding me now... it is as though ... ...

I came face to face with Hazel again. I told myself that everything is in control, and that I should embrace a wonderful birthday present for her, and I was assured through a glimpse of the future that the answer would be revealed on the day itself - somehow the answer would be apparent.

I told myself that, she will have time for me. That guy wouldn't be a barrier to my advancement. I will be able to push my way through and everything's going to be ok. I am going to make her really happy. That's all I am aiming for. My mind is not in the capacity to think further or deeper.

Fast forwarded to the present day - I believe everything would work out the day I want to. I will have time with her, have a hearty chat with her, and she will be really really happy. I know my visualization will work. I know Hazel is with me. I was uncertain, but somehow I was not confused. I know Hazel is with me. I waited for my chance but I was not flustered. I knew it will work out.

And I was very lucky to have Regina as the one who is assisting me. I was very lucky to have Zi Sheng who subsequently assisted me in the execution of my grand plans. Because I have think positively, my plan worked out greater than I have expected it to, meeting Allies, meeting a change of event that scale my plan towards a greater stability. I wasn't alone. My sincerity and belief has worked out and thus it was influenced others to join in my cause - and because I'm determined! I will succeed!

When everything was executed, it was so damn great I swear. The effects was so ... it was such a memorable night. I have entirely impressed her. She was surprised, she was elated and she was shocked. That had to be my doing and the fruit of my hard work - an act guided and motivated by Hazel. That is the outcome of the assurance from my inner voice that everything is going to be ok.

Later in the evening we have a chat - a hearty one. We shared many things. She shared about her ambition, her goals(Family oriented), and her plans. I shared about my personal improvement, wisdom & happiness. I picked up enough courage to ask her about the guy too. And I realize all along I was a victim to my own negative imagination... that I have got the equation wrong. It isn't about whether she like the other guy or not but rather a question of who is right for her, the time of whether if it is right for her and as of now she is in no position to consider a relationship. I was always wondered - in my own shallow thinking, that it is about a guy like girl and girl like guy without thinking deeper into the issue.

Even more so, it has nothing to do with my own abilities to pursue a girl. It was never part of the equation. And today I'm truly convinced of how positive thinking can create an even more desirable outcome, and a negative thinking can make something worst off when it is not even there for consideration.

And best, it is even more of a joy that she is delighted to have someone who will do big things just to see her smile, that she is worth it for all the effort.

Hahahaha. My efforts paid off so much I didn't know what to say or do. Thanks Hazel. I'm deeply grateful I have trusted and invested in Hazel and the confidence in God. Together, they form my source of power, my pool of wisdom.

And today I have realized in finding the right partner, looks is never a part in any equation. Its the feeling that counts.

Lesson Learnt for me:
Never imagine anything worst. It is only as bad as your own imagination.
Your reality is your own imagination, and the world is a servant to my imagination. Things will be much better than what you imagine.
Positive words influence an even more positive outcome. They serve as instructional message for Hazel.
See no fear, feel no worry, sense no despair. When I study, I will learn. When I apply, I will remember. When I answer, I will solve.

And tomorrow will be another day of possibilities. My powers are increasingly. Clearly, my mental discipline, focus, concentration, and train of thoughts are more instinctive, and I no longer walk alone.

Together, these serve as flame that burns for the moment, but lights my lifetime.